tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8179136029692209759.post6634216957828925539..comments2023-11-24T20:17:45.366-05:00Comments on READY TO BE OFFERED: Sex, Bondage, Fantasy . . . and Embracing What is RealRebekah Nealhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06486092247540955608noreply@blogger.comBlogger31125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8179136029692209759.post-41512489618215463912016-02-19T00:06:41.548-05:002016-02-19T00:06:41.548-05:00Polly, thank you so much for sharing those insight...Polly, thank you so much for sharing those insights with me--I can understand what you mean. I see this in my own life--whenever there is dissatisfaction or loneliness, it is so tempting to turn to fantasy--what I think will make me happy "right now" and remove me from the reality of my present emotions or pain. That is truly when I see that the only answer is running into the arms of the One Who is Reality--the Lord Jesus, to fill me in the places that are empty and damaged. <br /><br />I pray that the Lord would use your testimony to speak to others about His sufficiency and grace--you have a beautiful testimony--may He pour out His grace through you! Rebekah Nealhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06486092247540955608noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8179136029692209759.post-20519516083357595002016-02-17T23:49:06.700-05:002016-02-17T23:49:06.700-05:00Thank you so much for this article! I agree comple...Thank you so much for this article! I agree completely.<br />May I share a personal insight?<br />I think my lifelong trip into fantasyland has more to do with self-rejection, than anything else. I was an overweight child, who turned into an obese teenager, and never did lose the weight. I lived in a fantasy world... one where someone loved me, and I was thin and acceptable. <br />It has been a long journey, to come to the place where I know God really accepts me as I am. He actually loves me right now! I don't have to change, for Him to love me. I'm still working on this.<br /><br />I still struggle with fantasy, but not as much as before. I am very lonely, and have a hard time living out real friendships. I find that virtual friendships beckon, but end up hurting deeply, as they aren't honest, and only allow very shallow transactions.<br /><br />Thanks again for the article. It blessed me.<br />Mary Ellenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05377524055788658713noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8179136029692209759.post-91710926733661794012015-02-23T21:27:32.012-05:002015-02-23T21:27:32.012-05:00Thank you, Donna! I hope that people will be bless...Thank you, Donna! I hope that people will be blessed by it--have a wonderful week. Rebekah Nealhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06486092247540955608noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8179136029692209759.post-64445977960346054492015-02-23T09:56:38.047-05:002015-02-23T09:56:38.047-05:00Rebekah, thanks again for your post. I neglected t...Rebekah, thanks again for your post. I neglected to link it last night, but corrected it this morning. Here is the link http://donnareidland.com/the-jesus-code-the-course-of-sin-linkup/. I look forward to reading more of your great posts. Donna.Donna Reidlandhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15093807018808620991noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8179136029692209759.post-84457528395389579912015-02-20T21:05:30.864-05:002015-02-20T21:05:30.864-05:00This comment has been removed by the author.Rebekah Nealhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06486092247540955608noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8179136029692209759.post-74326656560343591302015-02-20T21:05:21.740-05:002015-02-20T21:05:21.740-05:00You're welcome, Donna! Blessings to you, too! ...You're welcome, Donna! Blessings to you, too! :-)Rebekah Nealhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06486092247540955608noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8179136029692209759.post-10444554798966246022015-02-20T12:56:52.840-05:002015-02-20T12:56:52.840-05:00Thanks so much for linking up at "Mondays @ S...Thanks so much for linking up at "Mondays @ Soul Survival." Pinning to "Mondays @ ..." board, too. Blessings!Donna Reidlandhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15093807018808620991noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8179136029692209759.post-74734941819667443972015-02-19T21:06:59.357-05:002015-02-19T21:06:59.357-05:00You're welcome, Michelle! I'm glad that yo...You're welcome, Michelle! I'm glad that you enjoyed it; thank you for stopping by--God bless you. Rebekah Nealhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06486092247540955608noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8179136029692209759.post-5516995511555290062015-02-19T21:05:45.381-05:002015-02-19T21:05:45.381-05:00Oh, you're welcome, Donna! Thank you for shari...Oh, you're welcome, Donna! Thank you for sharing and pinning; I linked up this post to Soul Survival; I am grateful that you were blessed by it. The Lord bless you. Rebekah Nealhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06486092247540955608noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8179136029692209759.post-19514099795095060612015-02-19T17:47:04.381-05:002015-02-19T17:47:04.381-05:00Great t read you speaking out against this hateful...Great t read you speaking out against this hateful book and movie, somethign that is polluting our wrld right now. You have made me think about a whole new area though, in terms of fanstasy and its place (or not) with your husband. Really interesting, thanks Mich xMichelleTwinMumhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03666267510923224699noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8179136029692209759.post-83458416852179639862015-02-19T07:40:16.740-05:002015-02-19T07:40:16.740-05:00Rebekah, thank you so much for speaking out on thi...Rebekah, thank you so much for speaking out on this topic. It needs to be said over and over every time these kinds of things come down the pike. As you replied to an earlier comment, we need to be light in the darkness even if the darkness doesn't comprehend. I'll be sharing and pinning this. I visited from Mom's Morning Coffee and I'm glad I did. Please link this up at Soul Survival. I'd love to highlight this next week.Donna Reidlandhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15093807018808620991noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8179136029692209759.post-56968502662212419232015-02-18T21:19:03.752-05:002015-02-18T21:19:03.752-05:00You're welcome, Joe! I'm glad that you sto...You're welcome, Joe! I'm glad that you stopped by! Rebekah Nealhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06486092247540955608noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8179136029692209759.post-68256533201924576182015-02-18T21:06:45.870-05:002015-02-18T21:06:45.870-05:00"When we seek fantasy, we are moving away fro..."When we seek fantasy, we are moving away from true intimacy, not toward it."<br /><br />You make a really good point.<br /><br />Thanks for sharing!Joe Potehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00128078440003054702noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8179136029692209759.post-32003623720089619022015-02-18T20:48:03.750-05:002015-02-18T20:48:03.750-05:00Rachel, I agree! I don't think that people rea...Rachel, I agree! I don't think that people really understand the danger of it or maybe we have just become desensitized as Christians. I just pray that the Lord would awaken His people (me!) and that we wouldn't be complacent about these things; they are important and they are affecting the church. Thank you so much for stopping by and for your thoughts. Rebekah Nealhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06486092247540955608noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8179136029692209759.post-87722935047013529632015-02-18T20:44:56.241-05:002015-02-18T20:44:56.241-05:00Emily, I understand what you mean. Because of real...Emily, I understand what you mean. Because of really difficult circumstances, my husband and I were engaged for 5 years, and it was a very difficult struggle to remain pure--not so much in body (although that was a struggle, too), but in mind and heart. I am glad that you were blessed by this post and that you stopped by. Rebekah Nealhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06486092247540955608noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8179136029692209759.post-29131072143552194532015-02-18T20:40:33.477-05:002015-02-18T20:40:33.477-05:00Yes, that's true; it is ironic! I'm glad t...Yes, that's true; it is ironic! I'm glad that you stopped by; God bless you! Rebekah Nealhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06486092247540955608noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8179136029692209759.post-63823480242852257292015-02-18T20:39:14.964-05:002015-02-18T20:39:14.964-05:00Thank you Terri! It was a difficult post to write,...Thank you Terri! It was a difficult post to write, but I felt the Lord laying these things upon my heart. Blessings to you, also! Rebekah Nealhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06486092247540955608noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8179136029692209759.post-18285823968166537362015-02-18T20:37:54.979-05:002015-02-18T20:37:54.979-05:00Yes, Gail, very true--and so many times (I know th...Yes, Gail, very true--and so many times (I know this from my own heart) I can ignore the danger and just think, "Well, I can't stop the evil in the world." But then, I relaize that the Lord has called us to be a light in the darkness, even if the darkness doesn't comprehend that light. <br />Thank you for your encouragement and for stopping by. Rebekah Nealhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06486092247540955608noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8179136029692209759.post-57061808683851455752015-02-17T16:17:11.405-05:002015-02-17T16:17:11.405-05:00I am appalled by how many so called "Christi...I am appalled by how many so called "Christian" women are justifying seeing this. For one thing they couple that has sexual relations in this book isn't married. Do we really want to promote that to our young girls? To just have sex whenever you want out of the context of a marriage? So, this book series and movie is a no go for me just based on that alone. And from what I have heard and seen advertised this is really borderline abuse. I read an article by Dr.Meg Meeker the other day about this topic and she talks about how dangerous it is to think that this kind of relationship is healthy. Thank you for your post. I wish more women would stand up against this type of "entertainment". Rachel Shttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02349620560633134247noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8179136029692209759.post-49936345285281730082015-02-17T13:24:58.739-05:002015-02-17T13:24:58.739-05:00Thank you. I am not even close to being married......Thank you. I am not even close to being married.... and yet I struggle with this. Fantasizing over what it may be like. Thank you for the courage to address this, and for doing it in such a sensitive an effective manner. Emily Wielingahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03609730666428629663noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8179136029692209759.post-54018880480628437152015-02-17T11:34:10.377-05:002015-02-17T11:34:10.377-05:00Thanks for your thoughts. I haven't read or se...Thanks for your thoughts. I haven't read or seen 50 Shades of Grey and don't want to, but I did think it was a little ironic that couples would line up in theaters on Valentine's Day to watch a fake couple have fake intimate moments next to their real spouse and a dozen other real couples!Jenny Evanshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06320766378823015885noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8179136029692209759.post-20969801792361715902015-02-16T14:56:21.672-05:002015-02-16T14:56:21.672-05:00This is a great post and definitely something ever...This is a great post and definitely something everyone needs to hear. We need to put Christ at the head of our marriage in all areas. Thanks for linking up this very timely and thought provoking post at Good Morning Mondays. Blessings to you for stepping out in faith and writing this.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04936255875038423505noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8179136029692209759.post-37554458956810097472015-02-16T07:27:21.004-05:002015-02-16T07:27:21.004-05:00I'm glad to see Christians like you asking goo...I'm glad to see Christians like you asking good questions and addressing this very popular book and movie (Shades of Grey) and some of the philosophy behind it. I pray we learn how destructive such things can be.Gail @ http://biblelovenotes.comhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17462629145629813283noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8179136029692209759.post-80930334420025332112015-02-14T21:13:39.898-05:002015-02-14T21:13:39.898-05:00A.M. Heath, that is it, exactly--"reconnectin...A.M. Heath, that is it, exactly--"reconnecting with Christ will help you to reconnect with your spouse." So, so true--the answer to discontentment isn't more "variety," but more of Jesus in our relationships. I'm so glad that you stopped by; God bless you! Rebekah Nealhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06486092247540955608noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8179136029692209759.post-44852841874491067082015-02-13T22:34:00.769-05:002015-02-13T22:34:00.769-05:00You are so right. Seeking a fantasy to make the ma...You are so right. Seeking a fantasy to make the marriage bed exciting doesn't fix the root problem. The root problem is, for one reason or another, the person doesn't love, honor, and cherish their spouse. Like you said, seek Christ and the rest will follow. Reconnecting with Christ will ultimately help you reconnect with your spouse. And a healthy connection needs nothing to "spice" it up.A.M. Heathhttp://authoramheath.wix.com/amheathnoreply@blogger.com